Let me begin by saying that no ring has ever made or unmade a great relationship. If you suspect that the wrong ring might doom your relationship, I humbly suggest that you consider pumping the brakes on the matrimony bus, lest a failed attempt at wedded bliss lead you to give up on human companionship altogether and become a cat lady.
That said, apart from your winning smile, your wedding ring is the one adornment you hope to wear every day for the rest of your life. As such, some thought should be given to its appearance.
There is a portion of humanity that believes that the most romantic (and therefore right) thing to do is to let your future husband select the ring with only his perfect knowledge of your needs and desires to guide him. After all, hasn’t he demonstrated his impeccable taste by choosing you?
But YOU (wise lady) are reading this article, which means that while you acknowledge that at his best moment he chose you, at other moments he has chosen leave the toilet seat up, and eaten cereal from a frying pan with a tablespoon because his dishes don’t wash themselves.
Your man is great-no question. He’s just not great at everything. Like most men, he needs a little help, and like ALL men, it’s best to let him believe he’s doing it all on his own .
So, how do you help your man pick the right ring without him knowing you’re helping?
First, find the engagement ring of your dreams online. If you want him to have more involvement in the creative process and aren’t set on one style, identify a number of ring styles that share the elements you consider important. Do you like round diamonds, or oval sapphires as a center stone? 18k yellow gold, or Platinum? Modern or antique styling? Once you’ve identified 3 rings that share the characteristics you value, proceed to step two:
Spread the word! Pin the ring styles you’ve selected on Pinterest, and share them on facebook with your girlfriends. Your closest friends and your mother should know your ring size, and your ring style preferences. Why? Because your man will need to know. Will he ask your mother and your best friend for these very important details? No, he will come to me (1-800-360-5744), clueless about rings in general and your preferences and finger size in particular, and I will tell him to ask your best friend, and your mother. See that they know.
If your best friend and your mother don’t like him (or vice versa), consider what type ring it would take to compensate for a life void of happiness.
AND A NOTE ON CENTER STONES:
While the styling of the ring is your domain, the center stone is up to your man. Most guys looking to get married have more love than money, and it won’t help either of you if you ask for 1 carat flawless round diamond (which costs $25,000 in November 2012) when he has a $5,000 budget.
Do I like selling big diamonds? Oh yes, I do. Very much. Is it loving or necessary to incur immense debt to express your love? No, it isn’t.
For you men out there:
• When a woman says “Surprise Me” she is always and ONLY referring to GOOD SURPRISES. The degree of surprise is not nearly so important as that the surprise be good.
• A good surprise fulfills an existing hope, a bad surprise gets you a restraining order.
• So, get help with the ring style and center stone selection, and surprise her with the timing and thoughtfulness of your proposal.
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